Michael and I will be married 9 years in August. For both of us, we are in our second marriage, balancing what we have learned and what has yet to be revealed. This marriage thing is not what I expected it to be. The depths of our emotions and unity, the intensity of our aggravations and the silence of our hurt are sometimes so surprising, it’s difficult to handle it all.
There are times I just say Whatever. Sometimes I say it with such a voice it requires me to roll my eyes. Most of the time, though, I try to recognize what I can and can’t do–what I do and don’t have control over–and tell God, “Whatever! Whatever you want to do. Whatever you need to do in my life, or His life, or our marriage. Just Whatever!”
More in my marriage than in any other relationship (close second is parenting) I have to recognize that I am not in control. I can only do what I can do, and then God has to do what he needs to do.
I have to trust God with my heart, my husband’s heart and my marriage. So it’s Whatever. Whatever God wants.
Are you brave enough do the same?