“You know it doesn’t matter much to me, but the kids really love going.”
“Yes, Tiff, but at some point, you are going to have to do something for yourself”
That was the end of a conversation I had with my husband after a few weeks of nothing but football, cheer, student group and so on and so on. I thoughtfully, and smirked to myself as I exited the conversation at that point until I started wondering if perhaps I was doing something wrong in my parenting. Well of course I am!
I thought back to a conversation I had with my wise-beyond-her-years 14-year-old, daughter who told me to “stop rescuing” her little brother. I told her that I would do the same for her, to which she replied, “I know, Mom, and it’s
not good for us.”
THEN I spent time listening with rising blood pressure to parents pushing their 8-year-old kids in an ungodly and unhealthy way at a football game…and 7 year old cheerleaders being yelled at by their coach that their cute little bowheads were, and I quote, “lazy and sloppy!”
THEN I experienced an encounter of an over protective parent that makes it difficult for me to wrap my head around.
THEN… I read THIS
Oh Yah! And don’t forget this CRAZY POP WARNER FOOTBALL SCENE!
I’m reminded of all my parenting flaws and those of others. Like the parents who live in fear of the world so their kids are sheltered, the parents who are relentless for their kids to be better than they were, the parents who teach their kids to win no matter what the cost, or the parents who refuse to let their children grow up, or play outside. Or like the parents who parent as a competitive sport so they can prove to the world that they are THEEE BEST Parent in the Universe or the parents who stop fighting for their teenagers.
Looking at how I raise my children makes me realize that I must not stop seeking God to transform my heart or my kids will suffer. Jesus saves us more than once.
How about you?
What kind of parent are you, I dare you to confess??
Do you seek God to deal with your issues so you can become a better person–and parent?