Last week I posted this on my Facebook Status:
I recently read in a book that one of the greatest lies we tell our kids is that they can be anything they want to be. What do you think??
Comment after comment proved we all believed something very different. Here are some thoughts:
- Other than physical, what would prevent us from reaching our goal? -Erin
- They can it’s just up to them. -Amber
- Being whatever you want is more or less living for yourself, so if you see where you can be amazing while living for others, strive for that, reach for that, accomplish that. -Jeremiah
- I think it is a lie. -Kelly -Jim
- I think if they can work hard they can be anything they want to be. – Teresa
- There are some things we can just never be. -Kera
- I think we shouldn’t give our children a false sense of hope. -Elaine
These are just a few of the 40
paragraphs comments or so posted about a seemingly small issue–but is it that small? The Y generation (people born 1984-2002) is a people filled with characteristics that have never been defined by any other generation before them. Overall, they have an “overinflated idea of their own importance.”* They aren’t willing to settle for any job, and are more likely to change careers at least 4 times in their early adulthood. I’m talking careers, not job changes.
Generation Y is unwilling to work hard and sacrifice for their career. A majority of them aren’t willing to start in the mail room and work their way up. They feel entitled and deserving of the best life now. The millennials are the most self-confident generation ever. They believe they can do anything they want, and we are the adults who tell them that.
Sure, with God all things are possible. Sure if we work hard at a goal we can accomplish it, but that is very different than encouraging a child to be absolutely anything they want to be. With that said, I do believe it is a lie to tell my child that he can do anything he wants. And dare I go further in saying, I think it’s dangerous to tell a child in today’s world that they can do anything they want.
Over the next few posts I will explain why I believe this. What do you think? Should you tell your kids they can be whatever they want to be? Share with me.
Telling a child they can’t be or do something is very different than telling a child they can be anything they want.