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I Don’t Believe In Jesus | Church Planting

I was sifting through the inbox of Facebook when I stumbled upon a note of concern from a friend and pastor’s wife.  On Sunday during church my youngest proclaimed that he, in fact, did not believe in Jesus.  Out of concern from the volunteers and respect for me she wanted to let me know.
Most mom’s would immediately start questioning the faith of their children and doubting their parenting skills, wondering if the prayers mattered, wondering if the future would hold years of wandering of a Prodigal Son.  I simply waited for Zac to get home to ask him, knowing the events that took place that Sunday morning.
With a wide smile and sparkling eyes, he simply replied that he did not remember if he made such a statement.  After a few moments of pressing with a voice of knowing and eyes of mom-death he confessed.  He couldn’t take the pressure.  He was bored.  He was hazing the volunteers.
Through a bit of laughter I kindly yet sternly explained to my rambunctious child that he could not test the volunteers in such a way.  Growing up as a pastor’s kid of sorts, and now attending private Christian school, it is rather difficult for my child to be challenged theologically.  In fact, I’m finding that some of our high school discussions on Wednesday night are actually more to his liking and his Christian education level.  But regardless, Zac’s funny sense of humor most likely sent a group of well-intentioned volunteers to prayer circle praying over the soul of this lost little child who grows up in a Christian home.
It’s become quite the joke in our household. Our family knows this child and his crazy antics.  Certainly this won’t be the worst trick he pulls at church.  But in all seriousness, this is great training ground for volunteers.in children’s ministry.
1.  Don’t assume a child knows Jesus.  Regardless of how a child is raised, it is totally a working of the Holy Spirit of when and how a child comes to a relationship with Christ.  I find that sometimes children know ABOUT Jesus but may not necessarily KNOW Jesus.
2.  A parent’s faith is not a child’s faith. Everything we do in ministry is so that people, no matter the age, have a personal relationship with Jesus.  My relationship with Christ doesn’t transfer into my kids life.  It is something that must be cultivated individually, even by kids.
3.  Don’t freak out if a child professes to not yet have a relationship with Jesus.  Their spiritual growth and progress is not a personal reflection of your Kingdom work.  Challenging, educating and loving kids is why you do what you do.  Even if you never see the direct result of your hard work, just remember that God is in control and loves that child more than you do.
Working and serving kids is one of the hardest jobs in ministry, I could argue that point all day long.  Pray for who you are ministering to, trusting who God is and his perfect plan for the life of every child.

Of Politics and Religion

I never thought I would care much about politics. I grew up during the Reagan administration and the world seemed at peace to me and I thought that everyone loved the President. Now being married to a soldier, the politics of the world and our government are part of our daily conversations.

I follow Mike Huckabee on Facebook. I love to hear his perspective on the White House and politics and the way our government (mal)functions. Normally after I read, and agree, and my blood boils, I find myself just sitting there asking, “What can I really do about it?”

Really, my hands are tied. Politicians are going to do what they want. The Governors and Senators and Congressmen have their own agendas and negotiations and pretty much will do whatever benefits their people pockets.

With the recent BIG NEWS (and i say that sarcastically) of Jason Collins coming out of the closet, I left my rantings at the door, of my blog, and found myself totally upset at the mix of politics and morality. It got me thinking.

I wonder if we all don't question our impact when it comes to politics and religion. We all kinda know about Jesus, and some of us even grew up in church. And now there are so many different religions, a buffet of the beliefs of the world colliding, spread out and displayed for us to walk along to pick and choose what we want. In some light it seems doable, but most of the time it's too overwhelming.

Like politics, we may catch ourselves asking:

What can we really do about it anyway?

How can we possibly sift through it all and come up with the right answer?

In politics and religion it feels like our hands are tied. So we do nothing…

Ultimately, it's about taking responsibility. Our apathy in politics or religion are going to come to great consequence that we aren't going to be happy living with, not in this life or the next.

We are too content with apathy.

Just like with anything in life, we have to try. It is up to us to pick up the phone and call our Congressman to help change laws to stop human trafficking. It is up to us to read Scripture and know what God expects of us. We may not make a difference immediately or feel a difference immediately. But someone has to do something, or no one will do anything.

Are you going to do anything?

The “F” Word

In case you haven't noticed, it's Monday. With Monday's comes whining by 7 am, and this morning a sick child before 9. Let us not forget the empty fridge because I was too busy to go to the Walmart this weekend. My whiny complaints are actually pretty menial. I really enjoy my life, but what I always tend to do is build everything up, in this tall well-stacked tower, and just hold my breath as I wait for it to topple over.

I do this with my work, too. When I'm ready to start actually “working” (writing, ministry stuff, Biblical Study, Market Research, Blah Blah) I tower that up too, a tall pile of papers waiting to proof read, books to read, newspapers, books, peridocials, blah blah. Sometimes I just sit and stare at the pile, trying to climb the tower to the right floor, or maybe even just hang out at the top waiting for my knight to rescue me.

But in my long life of painstaking experience, I know that I can't sit and wait for anyone in shiny armor to ride up on a horse, because the back of a horse isn't exactly condusive to typing and reading, not for me anyway.

Growing up I had horrible experiences (plural) on horse. The summer after third grade, I was riding a horse at summer camp. The horse was tall, the horse was old. There were three of us riding it. The Texas summer heat was beating down, the trails seemed long. I was bored. The tree limbs were low, the girl in front of me was suppose to duck. But she didn't. All three of us BAM! fell right off. Mortified, but not hurt, I swore myself away from thousand pound animals from that day forward.

Fear. The F Word that motivates me to ditch horses, and over analyze the piles of work. I just fear not finishing, or not doing it well or right. My check lists are long, and none of my “To Do's” seem to get checks next to them. Then at the end of the day, I just hate myself for not getting anything done. It's an ugly vicious cycle. And torments me from Monday to Monday. I'm trying to break out of the cycle, but it's not as easy as riding a horse, that's for sure.

What is your “F” Word?

Fear Of Wasting Time

Lots of you are wondering, okay some of you, okay two of you are wondering, what is going on in my life. A few post ago, I mentioned that God was doing something to rock my world and no doubt He has.

Last Sunday was my last week serving on a church plant. The 3 1/2 year journey has never ceased to surprise me and even shock me. God has humbled me by using me, and taught me about building His church. After all this time, I've grown but not sure I know much more.

But I'm stepping out trying to use my slightly increased knowledge and a tremendous amount of faith growing a ministry out of my house. A year ago I began ministering to the misfit teenagers in my neighborhood and community. And now, well, they just keep coming. I just keep feeding them (both spaghetti and spiritual). For some reason God wants me to keep doing it, and on top of that, all these other things.

So now, I'm without a paying job, without a church, and without a clue as what to do next. But I'm certain, pretty certain, that I'm exactly where I need to be. I just have to figure out exactly how to do it.

I have to find some rhythm in my days, and accomplish something, anything, before the sun goes down bringing in the night, which brings another day. My greatest fear in all of this is wasting time accomplishing nothing. I'm pretty good at nothing. I can do days and days of nothing. I'm hoping that this will make the somethings, the anythings, mean so much more.

So for the two of you that asked, thank you. Pray for me. And since I have so much time on my hands, how can I pray for you? Comment and let me know.

April Fool’s | God’s Justice is No Joke

“For three sins…even four, I will not turn back my wrath.”

My husband can be quite the funny guy.  Sometimes, when the kids come home from school he will tell one of them that he got a call from the teacher and wants to know what happened.  Whichever child he chooses to pick on gets a deer-in-the-headlight- look, obviously combing every memory of the day gone by to see if there is anything they possibly could have done to warrant a phone call.  After a few moments the poor victim of the practical joke finally realize they’ve done nothing and everyone starts laughing.  Except this one time, when my middle child was in second grade, he confessed to  pushing a girl at recess.  Even now, six years later, we all laugh about how what was intended for a joke turned out to be a time of confession.

We always have those moments with our kids when we really have to call them out on their behavior.  To me, it’s the most dreaded time of parenting.  In the first chapters of Amos we see God calling out the Nations of Israel sin by sin.  Their sins boiled down to absence of worship of God and absence of justice.  But the sins were many: violence, sending friends into exile, broken promises, lack of mercy, extensive anger, greed, disrespect, disobedience, stealing, mistreatment of the poor and sexual immorality.  My guess if you really looked at this list, your family struggles with much of the same.  Siblings hitting each other, friends being mistreated, anger issues among the youngest, disrespect toward parents and flat out disobedience of what you’ve asked to be done.

Most parents make excuses for their kids: they’re tired, they’ve had a rough day, they didn’t really mean it.  We don’t want to see our kids suffer and most of the time it takes a commitment from us to follow through with discipline.  Anyone who has ever grounded a child knows that it’s more punishment for ourselves than it is for the child. Who wants to deal with that?

But God dealt very seriously with his people when it came to their behavior.  Time and again we see God deliver his message through Amos:

“I will not turn away its punishment”

God called them out on their sin, and explained specifically how he was going to handle it:  I will send fire, I will cut off, I shall devour palaces, the strong shall not strengthen his power.  God says, “I will punish you for all your iniquities.”

The word punishment has become taboo in the last decade.  We should never punish a child, only discipline.  Punishment has become a dirty word meaning violence and harshness.  Discipline or punishment, whatever you want to call it, God was making himself very clear.  He would not tolerate the Israelites behavior any longer.  And it would require drastic actions to put his children back in their place.

Same is true for us.  There are times we must be drastic in the way we discipline our children so that they really get the message and understand who is the authority.  So many families, maybe even yours, are living out of balance because your children have too much power.  What they want, what they say is what goes.   This is what the Israelites thought, too.

God is clear with us, his children, that He is the authority and that he sets that standard.  There is no grey area.  And although God deals with us gently, he also deals with us with tremendous justice.  We should desire to parent our children by His example to us.

Share with me:

Is God your authority and standard?

Where did you learn your parenting skills from?

Do your kids have too much say-so in your home?

What does the word discipline or punishment mean to you?

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